You've Got a Frenemy
A 3-Minute Quiz

You've Got a Frenemy

Take the 3-minute quiz and find out who's really making your dating decisions.

Find Out What Kind of Frenemy You Have
8 questions·3 minutes·Instant result

You trust your judgment. You’ve made hard calls in your career and your life, and you’re probably the friend people come to when they can’t see a situation clearly. But when you really like a man, that clarity disappears. He doesn’t text back when you expected. He cancels a date. Or you meet a perfectly nice man and feel nothing.

You don’t actually know what any of it means yet, but the voice in your head is certain she does.

The voice in your head
  • He’s not that interested.
  • You’re too picky.
  • Men your age want younger women.
  • See? This is how it always goes.

I call her your Frenemy.

She’s made of every heartbreak, rejection, and criticism you’ve ever heard, replayed so many times she sounds exactly like you.

In 25 years of coaching, the smart, accomplished women I work with all ask me some version of the same question: how can I be this intelligent and still keep making the same choices with men?

Here’s the answer. Those choices were never really yours.

Everyone has a Frenemy, and sometimes she’s even right. The trouble starts when you stop questioning her.

One disappointing date becomes“Men can’t be trusted.”
One canceled plan becomes“I’ve seen this before.”
One slow text becomes“I know where this is going.”

Before long, she’s deciding who a man is before you’ve gotten to know him.

Meet the Frenemies

There are four kinds of Frenemies

Each one talks you out of love in her own way.

01

The Runner

The minute something doesn't feel right, she wants out.

02

The Judge

She takes one thing a man does and uses it to decide what kind of man he is.

03

The Sparkchaser

She's focused on one thing: “Am I feeling it?”

04

The Fortune Teller

She takes something that happened before and uses it to predict what's going to happen now.

Which one is talking to you?

Take the 3-minute quiz and find out who's really making your dating decisions.

Find Out What Kind of Frenemy You Have
8 questions·3 minutes·Instant result